We went through a stage not to long ago where we dealt with Ghosts and Monsters, but we were soon over it and happily moving forward. Well...Alexander had a weekend with his other mommy and to mine and Zac's dismay Alexander watched a movie with a pretty scary ghost. Needless to say ever since he came back to us on Sunday night we have had to deal with following:
-Fight at getting him to bed, it was hard before and even harder now
-Nightmares
-A child coming and getting in bed with us in the middle of the night
-A four year old that now refuses to be in a room alone no matter what the time of day it is
This morning, while I was sitting in my room Alexander came in and wanted to play his video game. I am very strict on when he plays it and its usually for 10 minutes and when Daddy gets home. That way I have leverage throughout the day to get him to be a good boy. This morning he wanted to play his video game and I wanted to get some things done so I told him if he went and dressed himself, brushed his teeth, and combed his hair he could play for 10 minutes.
My little four year old was so scared that he could not get himself to make it into his room. He just kept running back and forth from my room to his room. I think he must of made 15 trips running back and forth. I want him to get over this fear and we even had a Family Home Evening about how Daddy holds the Priesthood and that stops Ghosts and Monsters from being in the house. At one point I told him to turn on the lights, so one by one he would run to the bathroom turn the light on and run back to me in the bedroom. Keep in mind my bedroom and his bedroom are across the hall from one another. After all the lights were on, he stood at the bottom of my bed and said to himself "Okay Alex, you can do this". It wasn't on that turn that he actually succeeded but about three more tries after that. However, he did finally grab clothes and make it back to me safety, with no ghost or monster attacks.
phew....and I was so worried.
Oh please...Oh please...let this challenge soon be on it's way out the door. I need my peace of mind too or I might start seeing ghosts and turning into a monster as well.
7 comments:
Poor little guy. I wonder if there are any tips out there in parenting books or websites that would have some other suggestions for helping him? Maybe giving him something small that he could keep in his pocket that he felt was to "ward off" ghosts? It must be horrible to be so small and so scared.
Maybe a small flashlight of his own? I think I've seen them like light sabers.
Oh sad, :( I hope it gets better. Someone sure wasn't thinking when they let a 4 year old watch a scary movie. Love you.
Tell him to get on his knees when he is scared and for him to say in his Pray "HF please help me not be afraid and to let me know there are no monsters or ghosts." Or before he goes into the room.
You could also try to let him discribe the monster or ghost then you can knowing what scared him about the ghost.
You could also show him Monsters inc. and that they really are not scarey.
LOL-perfect ending sentence to your story! I don't know anything about how to get kids over this stage, but wish you the best of luck! Miss you too!
I like the suggestions that everyone has given and I have none to add. I hope that he gets over it soon too! Lets Skype soon!
We have a 4 year old boy too and he is going through the very same things. My 3rd girl had issues like this too. We finally resorted to a kid lamp with a 15watt bulb. Night lights didn't seem to be bright enough. We made "monster spray" with a small squirt bottle and a little food coloring. We also tell them the only monsters we know live on Sesame Street. Good luck. It definately takes time and lots of loving reassurance.
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